Marriage is one of the most significant relationships in life and divorce can be an extremely distressing incident for most of the people. Divorce, the official ending of marriage is usually accompanied by agony, misery, depression, dejection, gloominess, sense of failure, end of a way of life and insecurity. People undergoing divorce, even if they have initiated it themselves, finds them going through a dejected phase. Research shows that divorce is the second most traumatic events in the lives of people, the first being the death of a spouse and this stress is capable of expediting severe spell of depression and agony to the brainís emotional centre.
Divorce can be one of the saddest times in oneís life as it brings end to oneís dreams and hopes for a happy and prosperous marital relation. As one approaches the divorce process, one tends to experience the following symptoms of depression:-
Lack of sleep or oversleeping
Loss of appetite or overindulgence in food or alcohol
Exhaustion, abnormal aches and cramps
Pessimistic thoughts and Fretfulness or restiveness
Irritability, frustration and anger
Sense of remorse or irrelevance
Indifferent behavior and reluctance to communicate with people
Lack of interest in delightful activities
Recurring feelings of death and thoughts of suicide
Trouble concentrating at work
All these indications may be normal to some extent and one may feel them often after the divorce, but there is always a rebound time when one may try to recover and recuperate after the process is over. But if you continue to feel these warning signs for a longer period of time itís better to consult either your family physician or a psychiatrist for help. These people can aid you in coming out of your loss and make you feel better. Feelings of solitude, sorrow, annoyance and lack of companionship may surface often and mood swings are normal after losing intimacy with your partner. Some people may also be shocked and bewildered after the divorce process and this later turns into depression.
There are several ways to overcome the depression related to divorce and if one follows these, one can easily overcome lonesomeness:-
1. First of all, itís useless to hold oneís ex-spouse responsible since both the partners are responsible for the breakdown of a relationship. No husband or wife is wholly blameworthy or guiltless.
2. For newly separated people itís better to socialize, remain connected with their parents, family and friends. This may help them to overcome grief.
3. People undergoing divorce process must look out for ways to keep themselves occupied either by joining mountaineering clubs, ski clubs, angling ventures or by joining hobby clubs etc. where they can spend their time fruitfully.
4. Join a gym or play games with the people of your age group since work out helps in maintaining a fit body as well as it acts as a natural antidepressant.
In order to move on from this hard phase of your life, try to indulge yourself in whatever activity you like the most and if required an individual should also join a divorce support group where he/she will get the required help and support.