Advice on Divorce

Single parenting after divorce in India

Raising a child is the most challenging phase of your life, especially when it has to be done singly. Single parenting after divorce can wear you out emotionally, financially and physically. Restructuring your life and at the same time bringing up your child, while handling the social remarks in Indian society. However, planning on how to be an effective and loving, single parent can save you a lot of time and money and help you put some sense in your life.

Here are some advices on single parenting after divorce that can prove to be beneficial and less toll-taking.

·         Helping your child through tough times

Indian parents are not inclined to talk about divorce matters in front of their children. However, your child is perceptive enough to notice the heated arguments and discussions about divorce settlements. It is tough, especially for fathers, to talk to their kids about emotional and social problems. But it is essential that you communicate with your child openly, yet revealing only essential details about your current status and where you stand socially. Presenting a rosy picture will only make it harder for your child to accept and adjust with new life without one parent.

·         Accepting independence

Women in India instinctively depend on their spouse for making every decision. Sudden unwanted independence can be overwhelming and confusing. You need to understand that you have to learn to depend on yourself to build a new life. You don’t want to be helpless, and knock on your ex’s door for doing things. Not being helpless does not exclude asking for help from your family and friends but it does eliminate your dependency on others to a great extent.

·         Handling financial issues

It is essential that you are upfront about receiving child support from your ex as per settlement and If not do consult your lawyer immediately. It can be tough for single mothers in India, as most of them have had no experience in working. Planning on your monthly expenses, checking your bank account statements and keeping tabs on new investment schemes can help you smooth out chaos in dealing with plenty of aspects hovering over you.

·         Deal with overload

Parenting is meant to be for two people but now you are doing the job single-handedly. You are bound to lag behind but do not let yourself or your child make you feel guilty about it. Do not promise what you can’t deliver to your child. Fathers need to understand the emotional need of the child, which Indian men can unknowingly ignore. Mothers also need to keep in mind that they should not to become soapy at all times in front of kids, as Indian women are often.

·         Consistent family rules

Since single parent are mostly confused and change opinions frequently due to wavering emotions, it shouldn’t reflect in house rules. Usually after divorce responsibilities that were previously taken up by your spouse are left unfulfilled like organizing home by mothers, bringing fresh grocery from market, submitting bills on time by fathers.

Single parenting is not at all a rosy picture, nor does it offer any extra reward for you doing it courageously and patiently. It is also essential to not let single parenting after divorce become a burden to you for the rest of your life. Taking care of yourself is as vital as that of your child.