Adultery is defined as a voluntary sexual relationship between two individuals who are not married to each other. The act of infidelity occurs in marriage when one of the spouses willingly engages in sexual intercourse with an individual of the opposite gender other than the marital partner. Adultery is regarded as a sin and a matrimonial offence and is condemned by almost all religions. Infidelity in marriage should rather be avoided than repenting later on. An extramarital affair is bound to destroy the faith and trust on which a marriage relies and eventually ends in the breakdown of sacred relationship. Sexual relations outside marriage are still unacceptable in the Indian society and if one of the spouses gets involved in an extra-marital affair, it may lead to breach of marital vows and eventually collapse of marital correlation.
According to the Old Testament, “Marriage is not just a social contract between man and woman; it involves God as well. God is witness to all marriage agreements and insists that couples should be devoted and completely faithful to each other.”
Faithfulness is the core of a marital association and is most important in the divine human relationships. Although, adultery is regarded as the adulterous man’s wrongdoing against the husband of an adulterous wife but both the individuals committing an adulterous act are viewed as culpable to the crime and an illicit affair is regarded a sin against the community, family and marriage. The punishment prescribed for adultery is no less than death and married people who get involved in extramarital affair may be subjected to this punishment.
Marital disloyalty is often a product of selfishness and pride and can be the indication of a sexual addiction or of a bigger underlying problem within the marriage. The reason behind one partner straying away from marriage bed could be any. In most of the cases, it could be that their innate needs are not being fulfilled by their spouses. Lack of intimacy, communication and compatibility creates a hazardous emptiness within one’s heart and this may lead them to go off track. Adultery ruins faith, closeness and confidence. It has a devastating effect on the families, spoils careers and leaves a gloom of hurt and obliteration in its course.
In case infidelity has somehow crept into your marriage, it is your duty to comprehend why it happened as both the partners are responsible if one of the spouses have committed an adulterous act and see whether the marriage can be returned back to normalcy or is there any way out to nurse back your almost broken marriage. If you are the one who had been unfaithful, give some time to think whether you want your marital partner back or you want to move on. If you want to continue with your marriage, then you really have to work hard to reinstate the lost faith, confidence and commitment. The foundations of a stable marriage are loyalty, conviction, devotion, respect and honor and a marriage based on these traits can survive any harsh blow.
If you try and imbed these traits into your belief system, you can definitely recall and re-establish your marriage. But if you are the one who had been offended, then even you need to sit back and think of any underlying problem and try to resolve it. If you want to continue with the marriage, you need to forgive your partner completely and try to rebuild the relationship with a new hope and new promises as only marriage can give you a stability and eternal happiness in life.