Advice on Divorce
Dating advice after divorce
Divorce is a traumatic experience for everyone involved, especially the couple. The shock, pain and fury of a failed marriage can tamper your healthy outlook towards relationships. Getting into a relationship after divorce is a non-existent option for men and women, especially in India. Already suffering from an emotional turmoil of being a divorcee and handling a new relationship can be intricate and confusing. The following is a list of advice which you should keep in mind once you are divorced.
∑ Donít rush into a relationship
Now that you are single, give yourself time for the hurt to subside. And also give time to adjust to your new status in society. Indian society is not kind to divorced people. Have patience to deal with society before you step into relationship. You need to evaluate your reasons for meeting people. Is it because you think it is what everyone does or to fill the gap of your ex or for societal image? Then perhaps getting into relationship is not the answer for you right now.
∑ Meet new people
You havenít moved out of your apartment for months after traumatic experience of divorce, especially non-working women in India who settle their life around their broken marriage and the child. If so, then donít stop yourself from attending social functions because of scary comments and stares. Join recreational activities or groups for interacting with new people and start a new phase in life. As per typical Indian mindset, it isnít necessary that every person you meet should be assessed on terms of marriage.
∑ Your communication is vital
Donít feel conscious of being a divorcee. Your social status is not as important as your personal life. It is common for people, especially for women in India, who are recently divorced to become emotionally involved. It is important to realize that, you are not meeting people to avoid talking about your ex. And above all, there would be many incidences when you would face reluctance from people, simply because you are divorcee. However, it doesnít imply that you are incapable of dealing with relationship. It only means you should look elsewhere.
∑ Donít be afraid to get a new life
Once you feel that you can handle meeting people, talking about yourself and new relationship, donít take a backseat in developing new life. You would face times when insecurity will creep in, doubts will re-appear and society would be unkind to your wishes of going out, especially for Indian women, but donít let such reasons to turn away from new happiness.
∑ Think about your child
Before deciding to get into a serious relationship or even second marriage, give a thought to how your child will take up your changing requirements. Will your child be able to accept the new person in your life or does your child feels insecure or afraid about this change? Give time to your child and resolve his/her feelings. Communicate openly and assure him/her that your decision will be a good change for both.
Most of you may feel confused as to how to go-about meeting people and getting into a relationship after divorce. It seems to be overwhelming, however, with caution and careful understanding of your needs and expectations you can give a head start to your life.